izmedju tijela i sna, ova je ordinacija.

(gluoni, bezmasene cestice nevidljivog privlacenja, koje je moguce definirati samo preko njihovih medjudjelovanja, a ipak stoje u temelju svega i drze svijet subatomskih cestica na okupu. ne postoje osim u medjudjelovanjima kojima stvaraju kvarkove, koji mogu postojati samo u suzanjstvu po dva, tri ili cak pet.)
http://hyperphysics.phy-astr.gsu.edu/hbase/particles/quark.html#c6
(ovo rekao bih poprilicno vrijedi za oboje.)
Basic Principles
In short, great respect must be shown for a dependent patient's feelings of attachment, no matter how pathological those feelings seem to the observer.
Cluster C: The Dependent Personality Disorder (DPD)
Essential Feature
The essential feature of the dependent personality disorder is a pervasive and excessive need to be taken care of that results in submissive and clinging behavior. Individuals with DPD fear separation; they engage in dependent behavior to elicit caregiving.
Passive-dependent individuals are characterized by:
excessive needs and wants;
overt dependency;
transparent, intense, unremitting need to be loved in stable long-term relationships that go through minimal change;
little need to overtly control or compete with others if female; males may be more clearly controlling and competitive;
anxiety and fear when deprived of significant relationships;
even when content, fearing the loss of the relationships they have; and,
dependence on a number of people, any one of whom can substitute for the other.
Individuals with DPD subjugate their personal needs to those of others, tolerate mistreatment, and fail to be appropriately self-assertive. In females, DPD is likely to consist of a pattern of submissiveness. In males, DPD may involve a pattern of autocratic behavior.
The baseline DPD position of marked submissiveness to a dominant person is supposed to ensure unending nurturance. The connection is maintained even if the relationship is abusive because individuals with DPD believe that they cannot survive without the dominance and guidance. They live their lives in a manner calculated to avoid disturbing or offending others.
Stone believes that three of the diagnostic items for DPD may be viewed as tactics to maintain a hold on important others:
pressuring for reassurance;
mindlessly agreeing with others in case disagreement could result in rejection;
doing favors for the purpose of being ingratiating.
Other criteria can be seen as characterological symptoms of the failure of the first three defensive maneuvers:
being inordinately hurt by criticism or mild disapproval;
submissiveness;
clingingness.
Both normal and personality-disordered individuals can exhibit strong dependency-related needs; it is the way these needs are expressed that differentiates the two.
The parent/child relationship appears to be the major causal factor in the development of dependent personality traits. He believes that two parenting styles lead to high levels of dependency: authoritarian parenting and overprotective parenting. The consequences of these two types of parenting are the development of beliefs that dependent individuals cannot function without the guidance and protection of others, and that the way to maintain relationships is to acquiesce to requests, expectations, and demands.
DPD is often co-morbid with BPD and HPD. A common factor for both DPD and BPD is the fear of abandonment. Individuals with BPD will respond to abandonment with feelings of emotional emptiness and rage. They will increase their demands on significant others. Individuals with DPD will react with increasing appeasement and submissiveness. People with DPD are self-effacing and docile compared to the gregarious flamboyance and active demands of those with HPD.
(Legenda: DPD = Dependent Personality disorder, HPD = Histrionic Personality disorder, BPD = Borderline Personality disorder, co-morbid = pojavljuju se skupa)
Self-Image
Within protective relationships, individuals with DPD will be self-effacing, obsequious, agreeable, docile, and ingratiating. They will deny their individuality and subordinate their desires to significant others. They internalize the beliefs and values of significant others. They imagine themselves to be one with or a part of more powerful and supporting others.
View of Others
DPD judgement of others is distorted by their inclination to see others as they wish they were rather than as they are. These individuals are fixated in the past. They maintain youthful impressions; they retain unsophisticated ideas and childlike views of the people toward whom they remain totally submissive.
 Relationships
Individuals with DPD see relationships with significant others as necessary for survival. In order to establish and maintain these life-sustaining relationships, people with DPD will avoid even covert expressions of anger. They will be more than meek and docile; they will be admiring, loving, and willing to give their all. They will be loyal, unquestioning, and affectionate. They will be tender and considerate toward those upon whom they depend.
Dependent individuals play the inferior role to the superior other very well; they communicate to the dominant people in their lives that they are useful, sympathetic, strong, and competent. With these methods, individuals with DPD are often able to get along with unpredictable, isolated, or unpleasant people. To further make this possible, individuals with DPD will approach both their own and others' failures and shortcomings with a saccharine attitude and indulgent tolerance. They will engage in a mawkish minimization, denial, or distortion of both their own and others' negative, self-defeating, or destructive behaviors to sustain an idealized, and sometimes fictional, story of the relationships upon which they depend.
It is important to note that individuals with DPD, in spite of the intensity of their need for others, do not necessarily attach strongly to specific individuals, i.e., they will become quickly and indiscriminately attached to others when they have lost a significant relationship. It is the strength of the dependency needs that is being addressed; attachment figures are basically interchangeable.
Both DPD and HPD are distinguished from other personality disorders by their need for social approval and affection and by their willingness to live in accord with the desires of others. They both feel paralyzed when they are alone and need constant assurance that they will not be abandoned. Individuals with DPD are passive individuals who lean on others to guide their lives. People with HPD are active individuals who take the initiative to arrange and modify the circumstances of their lives. They have the will and ability to take charge of their lives and to make active demands on others.
 DPD Behavior
These individuals show remarkable patience and persistence in maintaining what they have. They will use cajolery, bribery, moral censure, promises to change (rarely kept) and even threats to keep elationships upon which they depend. They rarely strive for anything more than the preservation of what they have; their efforts are put into avoiding failure.
Like individuals with the other personality disorders, dependent people have a tendency to live in fantasy with insufficient input from current reality.
Affective Issues
The main affect experienced by individuals with DPD is anxiety. They are insecure; they fear abandonment and the disapproval of others; and, they experience considerable discomfort when alone.
Dependent individuals depend on others for safety, help, and gratification. They are characterized by passive receiving. They require stability, predictability and reassurance in relationships. Rejection is considered worse than aloneness so no risks are taken that might lead to alienation of others. They do not feel able to cope with the unexpected.
Defensive Structure
The primary defense mechanism for individuals with DPD is introjection. These individuals go beyond identification to seek internalization of the more powerful other; they long for an inseparable interpersonal bond. Threats and conflicts in the relationship are protected against by obscuring the autonomy and identity of those with DPD.
 Treating the Dependent Personality Disorder
Clients with DPD must eventually become more active and self-reliant. This change is quite difficult and will trigger fantasies and fears regarding the consequences of being independent. Should they become more autonomous, most individuals with DPD fear being abandoned by those who currently care for them.
Self-Help
Self-help methods for the treatment of this disorder are often overlooked by the medical profession because very few professionals are involved in them. Suggesting such a support group later in treatment, to help put some of their new skill sets to use in a group setting, may be helpful.
Individuals should likely avoid using a support group as the only means of treatment for this disorder, since it is likely to encourage additional dependent relationships.
Group Therapy
Patients with this condition tend to improve with supportive, insight-oriented individual or group therapy.